in between

"when your career goes up, you might have problem with your personal life.
when your personal life's flop, it might be a sign for your promotion.
when you reach the top position in the office, your personal life might totally blow out."

writing the lines above, reminds me of my situation which is in between.
compare to many other career women, i'm not the worse or even better.
i'm a working woman. i'm married but i don't have children yet.
my husband works overseas, we barely seen each other so often because of the job.
as the newlyweds, we still have lots of compromises. separation is no big deal, as long as we can do our best in our career. we think about the future. so, one or two years of separation by not living together is piece of cake comparing to the great reward that we're going to get after we promised to be partner for the rest of our lives.

but many spouses do not get the same opportunity of living in balance both career and personal life. so often they have to choose one of them. which finally become a harsh time and a very stressful situation in their life.

i'm writing this after the hard conversation that i had with my fellow teacher yesterday afternoon. she's a mother of two. she works 2 jobs, and she has a little time to spend with her little prince and princess. she needs to decide whether she would hold still her career or let it go and be a housewife.

not an easy task for her, since the job supports her family financially. leaving the job means loosing one "piggy bank". that would affect the children direct or indirectly. on the other hand, keeping the job will makes her lose precious moments of watching her children growing up. it will cut the amount of love, attention , and affection that should be given to the children. and that also will affect the children.

so, keeping the job or letting it go? how much wise, smart, and intelligent she should be to be able to decide her choice?

the question will remain an endless discussion, i think. and one day, i might find myself in her shoe. one thing for sure is that until that day to come, i still don't have the answer of what i'll pick :)

just in case, i have prepared the choices below to be taken as the answer:
a. keep the career and personal life in balance.
b. family first. career second.
c. career first. family second.
d. none of the above.

can you help me choose the answer when the time has come????????????????